Sheanna Shay married her husband in 2014 and filed for divorce two years later. Then she began dating long-time friend Robert Valetta and everything seemed great. For now the two have split, however, and the future is wide open. One thing’s certain, Sheanna is not looking to date right now.
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A fairytale wedding
Scheana Marie and Michael Shay had been dating for about three years before he popped the question and the two were married on live TV. But they had known each other for ten years already, at least now looking back, Scheana recently referred to their 15-year friendship, meaning they’d known each other for ten years when they were married in 2014.
It’s not uncommon for good friends to become more than that. Many marriages were preceded by close friendships. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.
Scheana and Michael had a fairytale wedding, attended by some of their Vanderpump Rules co-stars as well as many other TV celebrities associated with Bravo. Scheana was over the moon to be marrying her best friend and they were very much looking forward to a shared future together.
A reality TV relationship
All the ups and downs of their relationship were displayed for the world to see on Vanderpump Rules. Every new episode shone a light on the marriage of Scheana and Michael, sometimes all was well, sometimes not so much. Of course, they were not always the centre of attention as they are only two in a bigger cast. Still, even on the sidelines we learned much about them.
Scheana recently admitted that it hadn’t always been easy, but she wouldn’t change a thing. She called herself an open book, saying that she doesn’t mind sharing her life on TV for everyone to see. And after Michael publicly admitted to an addiction to painkillers, she believes they have helped people by sharing their story.
But reality TV has destroyed other marriages before. Indeed, there’s a claim that there is a curse on couples that display too much of their relationship on reality TV. Plenty of other marriages that were portrayed on other reality TV shows have crumbled under the pressure. And often all the ugly details have made it into the next episode. Fights, arguments, cheating allegations, substance abuse – you name it. We’ve seen it all before and we have seen how it ends marriages.
It would appear the strain became too much for Scheana and Michael as well and in November 2016 the two announced their separation.
When the couple initially came forward with their announcement that they had decided to “focus on themselves”, which ultimately meant that they were going to live separately indefinitely, a divorce was not quite in the cards yet. At least nobody uttered the D-word. But it didn’t take long for them to file.
They put out a joint statement, saying: “While we have made the difficult decision to move forward separately, our story will continue on through the love and mutual respect that we have cultivated throughout our 15-year friendship. Much of the recent speculation and reporting on our relationship has been misguided, and we have come to an amicable decision on all matters.”
Adding: “We might have failed at our marriage, but we are committed to succeeding as friends and will continue to support each other’s personal happiness and professional success.”
At the time Scheana also said that it’s never easy to split from someone you still love, but that she hopes that they’ll always be friends.
Incidentally she didn’t want to talk much about the details leading up to the divorce, saying only that everyone would learn all about it on the show and that they just needed to watch. Ultimately, however, this was hardly a decision that they arrived at over night. Issues have accumulated. Scheana had supported Michael through his health problems, substance abuse and his career aspirations, but when she began dating Robert Valetta, it became clear that she very much enjoyed it being with a man who was able to look after himself and was financially independent. Clearly being the main bread winner in her marriage with Michael was not her idea of a perfect relationship.
The divorce gets finalized
In May 2017 it was confirmed that the divorce had been finalized. Scheana had reportedly been relieved to leave that chapter of her life behind. After everything she had been through with Michael, she was happy to be able to focus more on herself once again, including her business endeavours such as founding “Scheananigans”.
The divorce went through mostly amicably according to Scheana, who even decided to keep her ex-husband’s last name. She considered it rather a hassle to have to change it back to her maiden name and confirmed that she would only change it again, if and when she would get married again. There was even a candidate around to whom she might not have minded to get married.
Interestingly Scheana also said that it wasn’t going to be easy to remain friends with Michael. They had been through a lot and had a long relationship to look back on, but she confirmed that she had never been able to stay friends with an ex before and sometimes didn’t know whether she could. But things have been amicable with her ex-husband and it didn’t sound as if she wanted to be rid of him for good.
On and off with Robert Valetta
One husband left behind, Scheana moved on fairly quickly – with long-time friend actor Robert Valetta. The two have known each other for about 12 years and apparently they’ve been very good friends for most of that time, always supporting each other, picking each other up and having each other’s backs.
Robert and Scheana dated for nine months before calling it quits in October 2017. Once again, however, the two didn’t simply stop seeing each other. Robert continued to be a staple in Scheana’s life, accompanying her to a number of red carpet events, leaving people to speculate whether or not the two were “on” again.
Robert found himself denying that they were, simply saying that they were still friends and that they would continue to support each other and that just because he accompanied her, it didn’t mean they were a couple again.
On the other hand Scheana made it clear that getting back with Robert was definitely in the cards. She said that often the timing hadn’t been right for the two of them, but that they continue to care for each other. The two have known each other for such a long time that Scheana now jokes it might take them simply a little bit longer to figure things out.
Indeed, the two are still sounding very supportive of each other and continue to have each other’s backs. It doesn’t sound as if either of them are ruling out a possible future together, but for now they are separate.
Scheana admits to finding it confusing at times, because they’re not a couple, but being with Robert sometimes still feels as if they are. She clearly holds out hope for a future with him. But according to Robert that might not happen as long as she keeps her circle of friends, the Vanderpump crew. He reportedly called them great people individually, but vicious once they get together and attack you. He couldn’t handle it and it upset his self-esteem. At the same time he would never ask her to quit Vanderpump Rules, knowing full well what it means to her. Perhaps the show will end eventually or Scheana realizes that perhaps a healthy relationship is more important to her.
At the moment she’s not actually looking to date anyone. She’s been in relationships for a number of years now and is just learning to be by herself for a while. Dating is not her thing, though if she should meet someone in real life, we’ll be the first to know anyway.