Phaedra Parks married ex-con Apollo Nida, had two children with him and then separated. A year on they are still not divorced and Apollo is waiting for a visit from wife and children in prison.
Real Housewives, wherever they may be in the US, are not likely to stay married throughout their stint on the show.
Does it attract people whose lives are dramas? Couples that are bound to be divorced? Is the cast specifically chosen, because of the potential for yet another divorce?
We’d have to ask the producers, but they are not very likely to let us in on their secret. One thing is certain: drama abounds for the cast members. And their lives are not what most of us would call ‘real’ by any stretch of the imagination.
When Phaedra Parks married Apollo Nida she knew that he was an ex-con and had previously served five years in prison. She thought he was a changed man, but apparently not so. During their four years of marriage she had two sons with him and both Apollo and Phaedra ended up being cast on The Real Housewives of Atlanta.
Photographs of the couple show them happy enough, but clearly something was brewing. And when Apollo was indicted on fraud charges, Phaedra did not stand by his side. Once it was clear that he would be convicted and was then sentenced to 8 years in prison, she separated from him.
But that was already over a year ago and whilst Apollo has now been in prison for just about as long, a divorce is not forthcoming.
Earlier this year it was said that Phaedra had started to get ready to file, but clearly that has yet to happen. Instead speculation is rife as to why she has still not made a move. Surely she has nothing to gain if she were to wait.
Apollo is in jail for another seven years. It wouldn’t be great for him to go through a divorce whilst still in prison, but it’s highly unlikely that Phaedra would want to continue to be married to him for that long.
It’s been speculated that she doesn’t want to divorce until a defamation suit is settled, which she brought against the author of a book who claims that she knew much more than she claimed about her husband’s fraudulent activities. By rights she too should have been indicted. Phaedra denied it all and sued for defamation. And so apparently she wants to remain married to Apollo, because he can’t be forced to testify against his spouse should it come to that.
In other words, she has no other reasons to stay married than to protect herself. If the story is true, that is. Phaedra herself has not commented on those allegations and where her divorce is concerned, she won’t be drawn out, only saying that it’s not an easy step to take.
On the other hand it can hardly be claimed that reconciliation is in the cards. In the year that Apollo has now been in prison, she has apparently not yet visited him. And whilst she herself may not have much of an interest to do so, Apollo would have a right to see his sons at least.
He has allegedly said that he needs the support of his family in order to make it through the times ahead and it is true that inmates that never have anyone visit them don’t fare as well as those that get the support from their families.
Whilst Apollo may well receive visitors, he has not seen his sons for a year now and only gets to talk to them on the phone.
They are too young to really know what’s going on, but the older of the two, now five, apparently understands where his father is.
Phaedra says that she does what is best for her sons and that she’s been consulting with others. Apparently she puts her sons’ interests before anything else and it would be very detrimental for them to grow up seeing their father like this.
One could almost feel for Apollo, perhaps not for the man who committed fraud, but for the father who doesn’t get to see his sons. He doesn’t even know when and if divorce papers may be served. He is not in enviable position at all.
None of us are truly partial to the details, but Phaedra does not fare well in this scenario. Apollo has a right to see his sons and his sons have a right to know their father. And she could really make up her mind about getting a divorce as well.