Kevin Costner has been married twice, each time with three children. But it seems he was a completely different man during both marriages, which may be why the first one ended.
Divorce finalized in 1994
Kevin Costner met Cindy Silva in 1975 whilst they were both attending the California State University. They married in 1978 after they graduated. At that time Kevin wasn’t an actor yet. He took all kinds of odd jobs, even when he had his first acting gigs.
He once said that he considers himself more of a ‘blue collar’ kind of guy. But he wanted to become an actor as well and once told famous critic Robert Egbert of an encounter with Richard Burton, whom he asked about becoming an actor, but without all the drama attached. We’re not clear on what Burton may have replied, but Kevin said meeting the iconic actor changed his life.
Costner’s career started to slowly pick up in the early 80’s, but not before his portrayal of Eliot Ness in The Untouchables did his name become more widely known. Only a few years after that he starred in and directed Dancing with Wolves. He won the Oscar for best movie and best director as well as several other awards and a Golden Globe.
As he became famous, Kevin Costner acquired a bit of a reputation for being arrogant and not easy to work with. There were also rumours that he was straying in his marriage. Needless to say that his soaring career did not help his marriage at all.
He and Cindy had three children together and she showed up by his side for many events. But ultimately it seems that Kevin didn’t quite manage to keep his life as drama-free as he had hoped for.
His marriage ended in 1994 due to irreconcilable differences. It is said that Cindy tried to fight for it, but it seems Kevin was no longer interested. He did say many years later, though, that he hadn’t planned on divorcing and that it had been painful. Divorce feels like a failure, but he also admitted that he hadn’t been a good husband or even a good father.
As it was, his divorce from Cindy went down as one of the most expensive ones in Hollywood history. Whilst it doesn’t seem that it was ever officially confirmed, it is believed that Cindy walked away with as much as $80 million. Kevin was worth an estimated $150 million at the time of his divorce, which explains this high number. The two did not have a prenup, after all.
Kevin Costner is a man of many interests. He is not only an actor, but also a director. He writes screenplays and he is a musician. He even has a band he goes on tour with. And at the end of the day he also likes to climb on his tractor and work on his farm.
After his marriage was over, Kevin was linked to numerous women. With Bridget Rooney had ended up having son Liam, though the two weren’t together for very long. For a while he dated supermodel Elle MacPherson. He even lived with her.
In 2000, then, he met future-wife Christine Baumgartner. She is 20 years younger than him, was a model at the time and has become a handbag designer. With Christine he had three children as well.
Kevin once said that he essentially retired from acting after the birth of their first son in 2007. Whilst he hadn’t been sure that he wanted to start a second family in his early fifties, it kind of comes with the territory when you marry someone significantly younger than yourself, who may not have had any children yet and will want some.
In 2009 their second son was born and in 2010 their daughter.
Kevin is certainly a much different man than he was during his first marriage. He has calmed down and knows his priorities. He doesn’t want to be an absent father and if he ends up on a project that requires long hours or weeks away from his family, he misses them terribly.
He said that he wants to be there for his children, even in 20 years from now, and tell them about life and the world.
Whilst Kevin has returned to working a lot more in recent years, he is rarely the leading man these days. He still has his music to play and his farm to work and only takes on movie projects, if he believes in them.
Had he been the same man that he is now in his first marriage, it probably wouldn’t have ended in divorce. But without his failings in his first marriage, he also wouldn’t be the man he is now. He says he has lived a full life and it seems he has few regrets. The way he is going with Christine, it seems there won’t be another divorce in his future.