Judy Sheindlin, better known as Judge Judy, has been divorced twice and married three time, two times to the same man. Despite not calling herself a feminist, she’s always been ahead of her times, especially in her career, and when she chose to divorce both husbands, returning to one for love.
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Her first marriage and divorce
Judy Sheindlin (née Blum), who became world-famous many years later as Judge Judy, first married in 1964. She was only 22 years old at the time. She’s graduated and was about to pass her bar exam when she decided, at about 21, that it was time to start a family. Her chosen husband was Ronald Levy, who was an attorney.
The two went on to have two children, daughter Jamie and son Adam. But eventually Judy became bored with life has a housewife, so she returned to school, finished her education and went into law as well.
But in 1976 Judy and Ronald divorced. In an interview in September 2017, she revealed that the reason for the divorce was his lack of support. According to her, Ronald considered her career more of a hobby and didn’t support her in the manner she would have preferred. His own practice was apparently more important. So, she divorced him.
Interestingly, when asked, Ronald didn’t seem to agree with her assessment: “A hobby? I don’t think so. She was a professional. She was a lawyer, and I can’t take that away from her. And she did well!”
Judy did call him a nice guy and a good dancer, but clearly, he wasn’t the love of her life, which may have made it so easy for her to divorce him in the end.
Crazy about Jerry
And that was just as well because after her divorce she met Jerry Sheindlin and fell in love with him almost instantly. She confessed that she was so crazy about him, she would have married him after two days. Instead, they waited a year before taking the plunge and marrying in 1977.
Jerry was already divorced once as well, bringing three children into the marriage. He was also a lawyer and it seems he and Judy clicked on many levels. It wasn’t just chemistry, but they were compatible beyond that and though their relationship was volatile at times (Judy recalls “terrific fights”), there was something that bound them together, “something that you can’t quite put your finger on”, as she said herself.
Another divorce and rekindling the relationship
Yet, after 13 years together Judy called time on the marriage and decided to divorce Jerry as well. What happened? Well, her father died. He was her solid rock and supported her in all things. And Jerry did not. Judy preferred to be angry at Jerry for not supporting her when she needed it most than dealing with the loss of her father.
Plus, she said, Jerry was a man of his generation, who believed he was entitled to be catered to. Implying that he wasn’t going to be the one catering to her.
In 1990 the two divorced. But it wasn’t easy. They each dated others for a little while and eventually, Judy realised that she missed him. She came to the understanding that Jerry was a man of his generation, but at least he had hair and she did love him and missed taking care of him.
In the end, the two remarried, clearly both unable and unwilling to be without the other. And now, 27 years later, they are apparently still going strong.
Marriage on the rocks after 40 years?
Or are they? Judge Judy will turn 76 in October this year and Jerry is already 84. She’s a force of nature and not slowing down at all. She just renewed her very successful show through to 2020/21, whereas Jerry is very much retired.
Judy is a multi-millionaire and it’s not as if she needs to work to make money. Not at all. She calls her life and fortune a “dream”, which enables her to give her family and herself and Jerry a more than comfortable life. But she does love her work and she’s good at it. Perhaps she won’t drop the gavel before she is unable to hold it any longer.
So, there has been speculation that her busy life and continuing career far into retirement age might put a strain on her marriage to Jerry. It seems she has little consideration for his needs and he may just be left behind.
This late in the game it seems unlikely, however, that Judy and Jerry would divorce again. And aside from some speculation that their marriage might be in trouble, there’s been no outward sign that this is indeed true. Judy and Jerry are still married and there’s little reason to believe that that will change.