The now-famous ‘uncoupling’ and purposeful attention to family have raised eyebrows. Martin’s personal issues seem to be the reason cited for the separation of one of the most famous couples
It’s fair to say that most fans of Gwyneth Paltrow and her then-husband Chris Martin were shocked when Gwyneth announced the couple’s split back in March. Whenever a celebrity couple calls it quits, the world is watching. Especially when the couple in question has been together for 10 years and two young children are involved.
In addition both Gwyneth and Chris are private people, who led a comparatively quiet life for a celebrity couple and had a private marriage. There has never been suggestion of a scandal or cheating and by all accounts the couple simply ended up growing apart. People do that sometimes.
Chris Martin has taken blame for the split, however, when he said in an interview with BBC Radio 1 that his personal issues and a need to grow up contributed to the break-up. He called himself a mess and freely admitted that his issues had been going on for years and despite working on it with his wife, things weren’t working out the way they might have wanted.
Instead Gwyneth Paltrow let the world know that she and Chris Martin had “consciously uncoupled”, coining a new phrase that was not necessarily welcomed by many. It seems that they didn’t want to call it divorce, perhaps because of the negative connotations associated with having one.
Given how amicable the split has been, this should not be a surprise. Gwyneth and Chris are still close, vacationing together with the children and making family time together whenever possible. They may not be a couple anymore, but that doesn’t seem to mean that they can’t be family. They will forever be bound together by their children Apple and Moses.
Their separation has certainly be widely analyzed and much was written about it, one opinionated piece after another. No, divorce doesn’t usually work like that. More often than not it is bitter and messy and everyone involved gets hurt. Can we assume that neither Chris nor Gwyneth or the children walked away unscathed? Probably not.
A couple doesn’t just call it quits and then cheerfully moves on. There would’ve been sadness and some pain over the fact that they didn’t work out the way they had hoped when they married. But neither of them has talked about that and both of them have only shown care for each other. And they have certainly protected their children throughout.
It seems they have managed to pull off the perfect divorce, if there is such a thing. Both being adults, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin have had to acknowledge that they have no future as a couple. And instead of staying together for the sake of their children, perhaps making themselves miserable in the long run, they decided it would be best to separate.
So they did. But there was no bitterness or hatred, no secret affairs or scandals. They professed their continuing love for one another, and decided not to let their family be torn apart by this. That includes still living together under one roof and sharing property.
It’s currently not even clear, if the actual divorce has taken place or if it has been filed at least. Now that Chris appears to be dating Jennifer Lawrence and Gwyneth has recently been linked to “Glee” producer Brad Falchuk, it is probably only a matter of time until they will finalize their separation.
One thing seems clear, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin are devoted to their children and the family they share, but they will no longer sacrifice each individual’s happiness. In a less cynical world, one wants to hope that they manage to continue down that path.