After dating for seven years and being married for one, Miranda Sings star Colleen Ballinger tearfully announced her decision to divorce. And her decision it was according to estranged husband Joshua Evans, who didn’t want to let her go. Apparently they were unable to make each other happy.
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Married after 7 years together
Colleen Ballinger and Joshua Evans met in 2009. She was already on YouTube slowly making a name for herself and he stumbled across her there. Apparently, he reached out on Facebook and whilst Colleen and her family were initially worried he might be some sort of stalker, it turned out he was rather harmless.
And so they began dating, letting their growing fan base in on all the ups they experienced as a new couple and finally a couple that had seemingly been together forever.
In 2015 they got hitched. It wasn’t necessarily a spur-of-the-moment decision. The wedding photos make it quite clear that plenty of preparation and thought went into their wedding. But they hadn’t been engaged for very long and the wedding itself had not been officially announced.
Their wedding photographer and a personal friend posted images of their nuptials on social media, thereby outing the happy couple. They didn’t seem to mind and later gave interviews as husband and wife at events such as VidCon. At the time all seemed quite well and Colleen was even contemplating taking her last name and consequently changing her Twitter handle. A big step indeed.
Colleen and Joshua met through social media and through their various channels their fans were invited to share their joy and all the ups their relationship was made of. Fans saw the two dating and having fun and going on trips together and all that two people in love do. Plenty of pictures of the two kissing or looking happy can be found on Instagram and Twitter.
One might have been led to believe that the couple was very happy indeed. But social media is deceptive. Here we share the things we want to share, rarely the things that upset or bother us. On Facebook, everyone has a perfect life. On Twitter, everyone can share everything with the world and someone will listen. On Instagram, we post the pictures of our joy and happiness. And the list goes on.
Rarely do we see the downs a couple might go through and we all know that no relationship is perfect. That’s a fact of life. People argue, they fight, they compromise when they don’t want to, they keep the peace or walk away to cool down.
Those things were never shared by Colleen or Joshua. Until Colleen posted her video announcing that the two were going to divorce.
That’s when she admitted that not only had their relationship not been perfect, but they had been fighting since the beginning. She also confessed that she never shared the bad parts of their relationship, only ever the good stuff. Yes, they had decided to share their relationship with their fans through social media, but they hardly shared all of it. And whilst admitting that, she also admitted that she was fully aware how disappointed their fans must be. After all, when your fans believe you to live a picture-perfect life, it is hard to let them know that much of it was a facade.
Reasons for the divorce
With every divorce and split, we wonder what went wrong. Was there a life-altering event that broke a couple up? Did someone cheat? Did the two fall out of love?
With Colleen and Joshua, none of these things seem to have been the case. Both posted videos where they discussed their breakup and both said that they still very much loved the other. They even said they were still in love. Colleen called him a great guy and good man and didn’t blame him for anything. Likewise, Joshua said there was no good guy or bad guy in this divorce.
Ultimately they said that they were fundamentally different people with very different wants and needs in life and different goals as well. It would seem they were simply not headed down the same path.
Joshua made sure to let everyone know that he never cheated on Colleen and that she never cheated on him either. Colleen for her part tearfully confessed that the two were unable to make each other happy, that they had been unhappy for some time already.
Had they been unhappy even before the wedding? Did they try to fix something that felt broken by walking down the aisle, committing to each other in a way they hadn’t before?
Standing on the outside looking in we can only speculate.
Neither Joshua nor Colleen has ever gone into the particular reason that led to their split. Perhaps it really was just the fact that they were incompatible. They’ve tried to make it work for eight years and eventually had to admit defeat. They weren’t perfect for each other and both agreed that they each deserved someone who was.
After announcing their divorce, both took a break from social media, but Colleen was back quite quickly. Her social media presence is directly linked to her livelihood, after all. She threw herself back into work and never addressed the divorce again – at least not in any specific way. She did allude to their situation once in a video but chose to not speak directly on it.
Colleen is busy with her career and for now doesn’t seem to be dating anyone.
Joshua, on the other hand, didn’t let go easily. He really didn’t want the divorce to begin and didn’t want to let Colleen go. But he wished her well and all the success she could manage. He stayed away from social media a little longer than she did but eventually returned to his channel on YouTube as well. It seems unlikely that he is dating anyone just yet.
By now the divorce has surely been finalized, though we don’t know any specifics about that.