Christina Aguilera was 21 when she met her ex-husband Jordan Bratman. That was in 2002 and he was a music marketing executive at her music label. They married after three years of dating in 2005 in a lavish ceremony attended by 130 guests, all family and friends. And instead of receiving wedding gifts, they asked that their guests donate to Hurricane Katrina and Rita relief funds.
Despite having somewhat of an odd-couple reputation, their relationship thrived and in 2008 son Max was born. According to Christina, Jordan is an amazing father and it was one of the qualities that were a reason for her to marry him. Albeit very young when she was married to Jordan, she said that she thought it was the right thing to do at the time and was convinced that she would grow old with her husband.
But the relationship started falling apart when Christina got a taste of a previously unknown life. Whilst filming Burlesque she learned a new independence and found out what it is like not to be constantly surrounded by her posse. She spoke candidly about the experience and although Burlesque was unsuccessful at the box office, it may very well have changed Christina’s life.
Upon returning home she found herself a changed woman and it was difficult to reconnect with then-husband Jordan. For the sake of their family, both put in some effort to rekindle the romance and spark they had before, but it became clear eventually that both were lost.
When the separation was announced in 2010, Christina acknowledged that they had already been leading separate lives for a few months. Asked about her decision to divorce, Christina said that she had to just go with it and follow her feelings. Given how much hurt there had been and how unhappy the couple had been, she knew that she couldn’t continue the marriage, not even for the sake of her son. In fact, especially not for the sake of her son, as she later explained.
Having spent her early childhood as the daughter of an unhappily married couple herself, she knew the pain it could inflict on a child to see her parents suffer like that. Christina said that she would much rather have her son grow up in two loving homes than in one miserable one.
Marriage is not for children. It is for the two people who said their vows. Children benefit from a healthy, happy relationship, but it doesn’t much matter to the child, if that relationship is between a married couple or not. Love is not predetermined by marriage; neither does it end with a divorce,at least not the one that parents have for their child.
It’s telling that Christina filed for divorce only two days after the separation became official. It would appear she didn’t want to lose any time in getting it over and done with. Consequently their split was called acrimonious in several media outlets, especially when it transpired that Jordan refused to move out of their shared home.
Almost instantly Christina began dating Matthew Rutler, whom she had met on the set of Burlesque. Though not wanting to get into anything after a five-year marriage, the two have clearly been going strong for four years now, having welcomed their daughter this year and recently also getting engaged.
Eventually the exes reached a settlement before being divorced. Jordan and Christina share legal and physical custody of their son, and settled their finances as well, though the details are unclear and only based on rumors. It is a fact that Jordan only removed the last of his possessions from their formerly shared home in 2013, because Christina was about to sell the house.
The ex-couple seems to be keeping it civil these days, especially for the sake of son Max. Whilst Christina has clearly moved on now, Jordan Bratman seems to have more or less disappeared from the limelight and is only mentioned in connection with Christina or their son. It is therefore anyone’s guess, if he is happier now, still sulking, or has finally moved on as well.