A lot of boyfriends believe in painting unreal images for their girlfriends regarding their relationships. Even though this may temporarily induce an ‘aww’ or some cuddling, it is also the reason women tend to have sky-high expectations from their relationships.
A lot of boyfriends believe in painting unreal images for their girlfriends regarding their relationships. Even though this may temporarily induce an ‘aww’ or some cuddling, it is also the reason women tend to have sky-high expectations from their relationships. No, they are not all because of romantic movies. It’s mostly because of the following extremely unrealistic statements that their boyfriends make:
1. “I knew I loved you the second I saw you.”
Reality check: you didn’t. You may have fallen for her looks and conversation skills. You can be rest assured that it was an infatuation, no matter how ‘deep’ you felt you were in it. It takes weeks, sometimes months to love someone. Spare the poor woman this delusion.
2. “I will never find anyone more attractive than you.”
Being in love has nothing to do with finding people attractive. By saying this, you are not only creating unrealistic expectations in her mind, but also making her feel guilty for finding other boys attractive (yes, she really does).
3. “I will love you till I die/I will love you forever.”
There is no forever. For any relationship. You may admit to her that you’re madly in love with her now, but you can’t account for what you will feel 2 years later, because you will invariably be a different person then. All you can do is hope that you will be in love forever, as that does happen to a few lucky souls (I guess).
4. “I love your mom/dad/parents as much as you do.”
You don’t because you can’t and it’s because of one simple reason: they are not your parents. So tell her you love them and respect them a lot, which is probably the truth, instead of exaggerating.
5. “You’re all I think about, everyday.”
This may be true in the initial phase of a relationship, but the idea of a successful relationship is to have all the other things to do in life, but to keep coming back to each other. Let her know that you love her despite having other priorities in life, like work, friends and so on. You’ll see how she stops expecting a text from you every half an hour, which is the number one reason for 90% of your fights, right?