How you should behave during a fight is a tricky subject because you’re likely to say hurtful things you might not mean. A perfectly healthy relationship can be put in jeopardy because of something you said in a moment of rage. Though this is by no means a comprehensive or thorough list, here are a few things you should avoid doing in a flight cause you know better than anyone, words can hurt.
1. “My ex would never behave this way.”
No matter what you say or do, never make the mistake of comparing your partner to your ex. You broke up with your ex for a reason which you know better than anyone else. It’s extremely insensitive to compare your partner to your ex. How’d you feel if the roles were reversed? Your partner might have been amazing in some ways but the simple fact is – you’re no longer together.
2. Criticizing their Family
You may have your own reasons for not being particularly fond of your significant other’s family, but there’s nothing that will make matters worse than criticizing your partner’s family. Sure, it’s natural for most people to not have a natural fondness for their in-laws, but this is definitely not the time to tell your loved one. More likely than not, they’ll take it personally and the fight will escalate.
3. Personal Remarks
Your partner might have bared his/her soul to you in a moment of intimacy. Don’t ever make your lover regret this by holding it over his/her head in a fight. This will make you come across as a manipulative and hurtful person. Emotional black-mail is not acceptable in an equal relationship. Ever.
4. Verbal Abuse
Though this should be fairly obvious, using cuss words in any fight isn’t going to achieve anything. This shows an outright lack of respect and can be a very sensitive issue for some people. Moreover, both men and women would do well to remember that even the most severe and cruel forms of domestic abuse begin from seemingly harmless name-calling.
5. “-Insert name- Would Totally Understand!”
As mentioned earlier, no self-respecting man or woman is going to like it if you compare them to your ex. You’re in an equal relationship in your capacity as a consenting partner, your lover shouldn’t have to feel like it’s a competition with your ex. This can plant the seeds of insecurity which can wither the strongest of relationships.
6. “I don’t know why I am with you.”
If you genuinely feel you can be with someone better, do that. If you don’t, then saying this is the worst you can do to your relationship.