Most people are unwilling to acknowledge their marital issues until it’s too late. This probably explains why most people are caught off-guard when they are served their divorce papers. In any troubled marriage, there are a number of small signs hinting at deeper problems that every married person should watch out for.
Just because you aren’t having an affair and you live together, doesn’t necessarily mean that all is well with your marriage. Here are six signs that might just indicate that your marriage could be on the rocks:-
1. Passive-Aggressive Hostility
Often, deeper relationship issues make their presence felt in the form of non-stop bickering and fights about the most trivial things. Obviously, two people cannot live under the same roof without having a few fights. However, if you’re constantly fighting about the same thing or you feel your partner is constantly criticizing you for your every action; it alone should serve as a red flag.
2. Uncomfortable Silences
Over time, many couples find it very difficult to have meaningful conversations with each other. Often, people gradually withdraw into their own private world when subjected to constant criticism for months on end. After that spouses stop making the effort to talk to each other and end up merely sharing a home instead of a life.
3. No Together Time
Most marriage counselors agree this is the most prominent symptom and cause of a failed relationship. After being married for a few years couples tend to take each other for granted and prioritize their work, social lives, hobbies, their kids and so on over than their relationship. A marriage like any relationship requires time and effort from both parties to maintain a healthy emotional connection.
4. No more Intimacy
A major decline in physical contact is usually one of the first signs of a failing marriage. Usually, this is paralleled by a considerable decline in emotional intimacy. Sexual intimacy is a bare necessity for any healthy relationship. There’s more than a grain of truth in the saying that physical and emotional intimacy are two sides of the same coin.
5. Reaching out to Other People
After spouses stop being intimate with each other, they often begin to reach out to other people at an emotional or even a physical level. It’s very natural for couples going through a tough time to feel a greater connection with a person other than their partner. This is a common pre-cursor to extra marital affairs.
6. Contemplating an Affair
Most marriages near their end when a spouse starts contemplating an affair. While many people have managed to repair their marriages even after having an affair; this is undoubtedly a very difficult feat to achieve. Regardless of the varied reasons people may have for wanting an affair, this should serve as the most obvious pointer.