There’s no such thing as a perfect marriage in the real world. Even the most seemingly successful and happy couples go through rough patches from time to time. Remember, it’s easier to fix a failing marriage than a failed one. Being able to identify signs of trouble early on and acting on it could make the difference between a lifetime shared together and a messy divorce. If you’re worried that your marriage might be headed for a divorce, here are 5 things you can do to save it:-
1. Pay Compliments
Remember how you actually went out of your way to be nice to your partner before you got married? Many people begin harboring negative feelings toward their spouses when they begin to feel unappreciated. Instead of gradually scraping away your partner’s sense of self worth by subjecting him or her to non-stop criticism, paying a few compliments from time to time will help make your spouse feel cared for and loved.
As the philosopher Adam Levine once said “It’s not always rainbows and butterflies; it’s compromise that moves us along.” Marriages are institutions founded on compromise. Be prepared to put your spouse’s needs ahead of your own to the extent possible and your marriage will be rock solid. Perhaps men should consider spending a day together with their wives at the spa instead of going for a rock concert or splurging on that fancy new video-game console?
3. Spend Time Together
A major reason why most people claim that being married isn’t half as much fun as dating is because they just stop spending quality time together after marriage. Living under the same roof does not imply quality time spent together. Make the effort to go out for a romantic dinner once in a while and maybe make a weekend road-trip some time. It’ll be just like starting over.
4. Be Supportive
In a healthy marriage, spouses depend on each other for emotional support and share their success together in equal measure. Be encouraging and supportive when your partner is going through a tough time otherwise your spouse will probably start reaching out to other people for emotional support. This is often a pre-cursor to extra marital affairs which is a death knell for most marriages.
5. Act First
Psychiatrists and marriage counselors unanimously agree that it is easier to maintain a marriage than to fix a broken one. If you’ve reached the point where you cannot share the same bed and your decision to see a marriage counselor is only for the sake of your kids, then it might already be too late.